Who Is Willing?

At this very moment, there is a problem that is severely permeating our culture. With one glance into a group of males anyone can see there are apparent differences such as height, weight, skin color, hair type and so on. But I am speaking of a difference that goes much deeper into the very being and cannot be seen with just once glance. Shooting with you straight, there are boys who refuse to become men and become who they are called to be. This is a refusal to accept the burden of manhood. It can be overwhelming because of all the responsibility that incurs due to marriage, children, work, church, recreation and any other aspect you want to include. Because of this refusal, many males are following after the deception of entertainment and pointless ventures and are not willing to accept the responsibilities of manhood.

Since this website is mainly for men who are married, I encourage single men to read it and learn as well. I say this with the understanding that not every guy is called to be married. But for both married and single men, you are still a male who needs to learn to give up the trivial things and be a man. All men need to understand that they need to take care of business. Growing up, my dad always encouraged me to do things and to do them right the first time. Whether it was yard work, changing my truck’s oil or whatever, he always encouraged me in that direction. Yes, it was painful at times to learn and that was due to my stubbornness, but I am extremely thankful for him teaching me that principle. It taught me what it means to become a man in practical ways.

Now, do not get me wrong. I am not saying that boys need to grow up to become macho men who can shoulder stacks of lumber like they are nothing. Being macho is not what I am talking about. It is pointless to be able to shoulder those stacks of lumber unless you are able to take them and build something. I believe that even macho men can crumble under the weight of manhood responsibility or even become overly demanding in order to handle situations in life. Both instances are dangerous. Rather, boys need to become men who are willing to gladly (this is key) take up the burden of manhood responsibilities (shoulder the stacks of lumber) and become men and one day husbands who love and adore their wives (build stable relationships, etc. with the stacks of lumber).

In regards to your wife, men, I plead with you to be Jesus to your wife. Let her see, know and feel the love of Christ through your love for her. I adore my wife and I tell her. What good is it for me to adore and cherish my wife and not tell her? It is absolutely essential for her to hear it and because of hearing it, she knows it without a shadow of a doubt. (If you have not done this in a while, it may sweep her off her feet again. Wow!) Try this: the next time you bite into a well-seasoned steak and make a comment about it being the absolute best, take a moment to compliment your wife and tell her you love her. It’s not that hard. Never be too prideful to tell your wife how you feel about her every day. It is okay to be mushy with your wife; that’s how she operates. Whether you are 20 years old or 80, let your wife know that she is wanted and that she is loved. Do whatever it takes to rekindle that flame.

Guys, it’s all about perspective. Shoulder the stacks of lumber in life and marriage and build your life on the foundation of the Word of God.

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